seeking perfection?
I want to have a perfect job, a perfect friend, perfect family, perfect lover, perfect way of thinking but before having this perfect way of life i have to realise that "Imperfection is perfection". It's okay to know a very good person with some flaws, it's okay to have a great job with some difficulties, it's okay to love someone with issues and it's okay to have different way of thinking but it's not okay to ignore the bad side of your life and only focus on the bright side because sooner or later if you didn't fix that bad side it will take over the bright side or prevent you from seeing it. Actually if you wanna live that perfect life you are seeking for, you only have to live a normal life and stop talking about how perfect your life could be but go fill and do what's missing in your life or in your personality. Be Grateful you have a bad side in your life to know how valuable the bright side is, some people have all the good things in life anyone could ever dream of till they get bored from this kind of life and forgot how it feels like to have a good life or a bright side in their lives.
Recently I met people who push this bad side away for example stop playing sports with team X because it cause them some disorder or cause them headache so they decided to go with team Y and team Y only plays Football, Those people didn't know that they could stay with team X, solve their bad side of seeing things, play all kind of sports without changing their concepts, have fun without limiting themselves in one sport but of course with maturity and know the only this the don't have is the will to do the previous and stop being week or surrendering to their issues. And i mean by sports (Work, Religions, Family, Love, friends, Life) and by Football is choosing only two or three of those to live with.
Don't change your way of living your life because you had some trouble in it and don't change your personality because you have some issues, both if you changed them will cause you a huge black hole in your mind that will bring you from time to time a very bad thoughts or a very bad decisions in your life, just make sure that troubles in life can be fixed because it's never too late and because Allah experience us through this kind of troubles or issues either you solve it and be better than before without changing your way of living life or pushing it away and live someone else life thinking that it would be good for you but it will only cause you a another black huge hole in your mind. Ignoring bad habits or pushing people away or disappearing or trying to be Mr./Mrs. perfect or run away from your issues won't make you a fighter and in-order to survive and be a normal person without hurting yourself or anyone else you have to be a freaking ninja turtle :'D
"Be your own superman in your life" Remeber that strong people fight what they can't control till they control it